why modesty is important for women


So let’s talk about modesty. Modesty is a subjective concept but what I mean by modesty is basically dressing in a way that does not sexualize you.

The mainstream idea right now is that women should be free to wear whatever they want without being judged for it. Talking about modesty is often called policing women’s bodies and dressing inappropriately is called empowerment.

Celebrities regularly show up to the red carpet wearing close to nothing or covering everything but their private parts. Influencers have made a living out of sharing nude and semi-nude pictures and videos online. And now regular people are dressing more and more immodestly in real life.

While it is your choice what you decide to wear, there are no upsides to sexualizing yourself in public. While I do not believe that a woman dressing immodestly was asking for it, reality is that women are more prone to harassment when they dress immodestly. You cannot go anywhere without certain kinds of men catcalling and harassing you. Why would you subject yourself to that just to prove a point?

The other major downside is sexualizing yourself diminished your other qualities. Do not hide your humour, intelligence, kindness behind your boobs and thighs. If you sexualize yourself, people will follow suit. You will not attract the kind of depth and authenticity you crave from men or even other women. You can still look absolutely stunning and be fashionable without bearing it for the world to see.

While it is good to look your best, our bodies and our fashion shouldn’t be the loudest thing about us as women, rather let it be our hearts and our minds. As the Bible says in 1 Tim 2: 9 -10 ,

“ I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. ”